You're Asking What??

The comments start when people find out you're pregnant with twins. Once they arrive, it doesn't slow down, it only gets worse. I'm sure people "mean well," but some people are just obnoxious. It's one thing to have friends ask these questions, but sharing intimate details with strangers in the middle of a grocery store is quickly creeping to the top of my pet peeve list.

Are they Identical of Fraternal?
"Its a boy and a girl."
blank stare.
"They're fraternal."
Seriously? Apparently most people do not know basic science. Identical twins are the same egg/sperm that has been split. Boy/girl twins can NEVER be identical. NEVER.

Do Twins run in your family?
I didn't realize I had to have twins in the family to justify the fact that I actually have twins! Either this is people's way of trying to find out if you "had help", or they are really interested in your family tree. If you answer no, then usually the follow up question is my next point. I've taken to lying, "yes, they do." Anything to avoid intimate conversations with strangers.

Did you do IVF?
To friends or aquaintances actually struggling with infertility, I do not mind this question at all. However, the random old lady walking the bike trail or the nosy man at Starbucks, do you really think you deserve to know about my reproductive system?

This really is only the tip of the iceberg of inappropriate questions people ask....

Twin mommas, what questions do you hate?

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